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Sometimes you need to say "No"

As an academic there are a lot of demands on your time. You can quickly get overwhelmed. I'm assuming you don't want to use passive-aggressive techniques like doing things badly so no one will ask you or being unfriendly to students so they won't come to office hours.

Knowing when and how to say "No" is an important skill. It leaves you time and energy for the things you want to say "Yes" to. It enables you to focus on your best contribution.

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Juggling, jigsaws, and navigating by the stars: making reasonable plans

Posted on September 18, 2020 by Jo VanEvery

This post was originally written during a time when many universities and workplaces had shifted to remote work in response to the COVID pandemic. Although circumstances have now changed for many people, much of what I say in this post still applies.  Jo VanEvery, Academic Career Guide · Juggling, jigsaws, and navigating by the […]

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Dealing with the loss of a physical boundary between work and home

Posted on August 19, 2020 by Jo VanEvery

This post was originally written during a time when many universities and workplaces had shifted to remote work in response to the COVID pandemic. Although circumstances have now changed for many people, much of what I say in this post still applies. Jo VanEvery, Academic Career Guide · Dealing with the loss of a physical […]

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Optimism in the face of uncertainty

Posted on July 22, 2020 by Jo VanEvery

This post was originally written during a time when many universities and workplaces had shifted to remote work in response to the COVID pandemic. Although circumstances have now changed for many people, much of what I say in this post still applies. Jo VanEvery, Academic Career Guide · Optimism in the face of uncertainty There […]

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Resting & recharging is preparation for the new academic year

Posted on July 17, 2020 by Jo VanEvery

This post was originally written during a time when many universities and workplaces had shifted to remote work in response to the COVID pandemic. Although circumstances have now changed for many people, much of what I say in this post still applies. Jo VanEvery, Academic Career Guide · Resting & recharging is preparing for the […]

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Emotional labour is real work

Posted on March 24, 2020 by Jo VanEvery

This post was originally written during a time when many universities and workplaces had shifted to remote work in response to the COVID pandemic. Although circumstances have now changed for many people, much of what I say in this post still applies. As I watch all the academic Twitter conversations about transitioning to remote teaching […]

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Not contributing to other people’s email overwhelm

Posted on March 16, 2020 by Jo VanEvery

Jo VanEvery, Academic Career Guide · Not contributing to other people’s email overwhelm As a companion piece to Managing email when you’ve rapidly switched to remote working, I thought I’d also share some tips to make email more effective as a means of communication. Modelling good email practices does create change. If other people find your […]

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On not being competitive

Posted on October 10, 2019 by Jo VanEvery 5 Comments

I have not a competitive bone in my body. When I play (recreational) sports, I don’t even know the score most of the time. People who are competitive find this odd. They wonder how I get motivated to play well if I don’t care about winning. I go out there to have a good time and […]

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Unpacking “busy”: the importance of being proactive instead of reactive

Posted on September 27, 2019 by Jo VanEvery

Jo VanEvery, Academic Career Guide · Unpacking Busy: the importance of being proactive vs reactive In a conversation with a long-term client recently I had an Aha! moment. Every one of my clients is busy. Working with me, doesn’t necessarily make you less busy. Working with me can make you feel less stressed and make […]

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Protecting time for writing: Interruptions

Posted on September 24, 2019 by Jo VanEvery

Jo VanEvery, Academic Career Guide · Protecting time for writing: Interruptions I encourage you to make writing a priority and block time so that writing becomes a regular practice, rather than something you only do when you have specific deadlines. Although I recognise that different people will work better in different places, I strongly advocate […]

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Confidence Tricks

Posted on April 12, 2019 by Jo VanEvery

Jo VanEvery, Academic Career Guide · Confidence Tricks Everyone struggles with confidence at least some of the time. While confidence can’t be overly reliant on external validation, negative feedback is always difficult, and it’s tough to maintain your confidence when external validation is slow in coming. Confidence also depends on things you don’t have complete […]

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Don’t do your best!

Posted on March 14, 2019 by Jo VanEvery

Jo VanEvery, Academic Career Guide · Don’t Do Your Best! You know all about perfectionism and why it isn’t equivalent to “striving for excellence“, but is actually a psychological problem that seriously hampers your work. (If you don’t, read the pieces linked here, and maybe talk to a mental health professional.) But I bet you […]

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Academic citizenship & getting better at saying no

Posted on March 6, 2019 by Jo VanEvery

Jo VanEvery, Academic Career Guide · Academic citizenship & getting better at saying no There are a lot of tasks that when done well, no one even notices. They are essential to the smooth running of your department, institution, and scholarly association, and yet they are often invisible. Even if doing the actual tasks gets […]

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